MARRIAGE LIVE Pt 1: Singles Thrive 

Pastor Jonathan Macciola



My message this morning has 2 points that will help you Thrive as a Single, 1- Being Secure as a Single and 2 – Being a Whole Single in Christ.

First lets take a look at a few Singles that HAVE thrived and that ARE thriving:

 i.     Pictures of Thriving Singles

1.     Mother Theresa

2.     Jesus (still Thriving today)

3.     Paul Brumley

4.     Sherri Shawen


It seems to me that us singles are in pretty good company!

Lets talk about how and why we should be secure and whole as singles.  The passage I would like to focus on this morning comes out of Colossians 2:6-10.


Colossians is a letter (Epistle) to the church in the city of Colosse written in A.D. 62 by Paul who wrote 13 letters in the New Testament.

Paul had never actually visited the Colossian church but it is though that this church was probably started because of Paul’s 3-year ministry in Ephesus, which was 100 miles away from Colosse.

This letter was in response to Epaphras, one of Paul’s ministry associates who was also thought to be the founder of the Colossian church.

Epaphras traveled to inform Paul of the situation in Colosse.  Paul was a prisoner at the time, most likely in Rome.  Paul’s coworker, Tychicus delivered the letter in person to Colosse.

The occasion for this letter was to challenge and completely put down the false teaching that threatened the spiritual future of the Colossian church.

Paul’s purpose was to fight against the dangerous false teaching at Colosse because it was displacing their faith and focus and Christ as the supreme power and authority over all creation.

The passage I want to focus on is Colossians 2:6-10 with an emphasis on verse 10.   But before I read that passage I would like to preface it with Colossians 1:15-23 where Paul is writing about the Supremacy of Christ.

Colossians 1:15-23

The Supremacy of the Son of God

15 The Son is the image of the invisible God, the firstborn over all creation.16 For in him all things were created: things in heaven and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or powers or rulers or authorities; all things have been created through him and for him.17 He is before all things, and in him all things hold together.18 And he is the head of the body, the church; he is the beginning and the firstborn from among the dead, so that in everything he might have the supremacy.19 For God was pleased to have all his fullness dwell in him,20 and through him to reconcile to himself all things, whether things on earth or things in heaven, by making peace through his blood, shed on the cross.

21 Once you were alienated from God and were enemies in your minds because oft your evil behavior.22 But now he has reconciled you by Christ's physical body through death to present you holy in his sight, without blemish and free from accusation—23 if you continue in your faith, established and firm, and do not move from the hope held out in the gospel. This is the gospel that you heard and that has been proclaimed to every creature under heaven, and of which I, Paul, have become a servant.

This passage emphasizes the Gospel and how Jesus Christ is supreme and that (V19) “God was pleased to have all his fullness dwell in him.”.

That’s what Paul is dong in Colossians, showing that we are full and complete through Jesus Christ.

Now with Colossians 1:15-23 in mind lets turn our focus to Colossians 2:6-10.


       Spiritual Fullness in Christ (NIV)

Colossians 2:6-10

6 So then, just as you received Christ Jesus as Lord, continue to live your lives in him,7 rooted and built up in him, strengthened in the faith as you were taught, and overflowing with thankfulness.

8 See to it that no one takes you captive through hollow and deceptive philosophy, which depends on human tradition and the elemental spiritual forcest of this world rather than on Christ.

9 For in Christ all the fullness of the Deity lives in bodily form,10 and in Christ you have been brought to fullness. He is the head over every power and authority.

This is my focus today (V10) THE GAME CHANGER

“and in Christ you have been brought to fullness.  He is the head over every power and authority.”

Through Christ we can thrive as singles and be secure and whole that we have been brought to fullness.

We need to have faith that this is indeed the truth that we need nothing aside from God to be full and complete and therefore our security lies in that truth that is fueled by our faith.

 ii.     2 Colossians 2:10

1.     “and in Christ you have been brought to fullness. He is the head over every power and authority.”

In order to be a Thriving Single we need to be secure that we are “full in Christ”. 

Paul is a great example to all of us of how secure you can be as a single for Christ. 

He relentlessly pursued Christ and his calling.  In fact he even writes to the Church in Corinth and gives us some Godly perspective on singleness.

1 Corinthians 7:8-9 (NIV)

8 Now to the unmarriedt and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do.9 But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

1 Corinthians 7:32-35 (NIV)

32 I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord's affairs—how he can please the Lord.33 But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife—34 and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord's affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband.35 I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.

1 Corinthians 7:32-35 (Message)

32-35 I want you to live as free of complications as possible. When you're unmarried, you're free to concentrate on simply pleasing the Master. Marriage involves you in all the nuts and bolts of domestic life and in wanting to please your spouse, leading to so many more demands on your attention. The time and energy that married people spend on caring for and nurturing each other, the unmarried can spend in becoming whole and holy instruments of God. I'm trying to be helpful and make it as easy as possible for you, not make things harder. All I want is for you to be able to develop a way of life in which you can spend plenty of time together with the Master without a lot of distractions. 

Paul is clearly passionate and secure in his singleness as he encourages the church of Corinth that being single allows you to focus more time on the things of the Lord.

Paul is not saying that being married is bad but rather if you are single you have less responsibility and can focus your undivided attention on the Lord.  We need to enjoy, cherish, and value the season that we are in as singles.  We need to THRIVE and be SECURE with where we’re at.  Once we move on to a relationship or marriage, kids, etc. our responsibilities will grow.

So, Singles be secure and THRIVE!!

a.     Are you secure in Christ?

b.     You are valuable just the way you are, FULL IN CHRIST!

c.      Enjoy each season God gives you

d.     When your secure in Christ it’s easy to Thrive



Are you whole?  When we accept the Gospel and make Jesus Christ the Lord of our life we are justified, made righteous.  However, there is this other part to the journey that is happening our whole life and that is becoming whole from our hurts, habits, and hang-ups. 

As a single we need to understand the fullness that is in Christ and that yes we are broken, we need to work on our brokenness and that is again found in Christ.

GAME CHANGER = Colossians 2:10

Sometimes as singles we feel that if we’re single we are broken or not complete and we can find that our answers in someone else, that Mr. Or Mrs. Right. 

Our generation has grown up with these passionate love stories that teach us the love of our life will complete us, fix us, or make us whole.  Examples: Titanic or Jerry McGuire movies.

You are complete in Christ.

 i.     2 Colossians 2:10

2.     “and in Christ you have been brought to fullness. He is the head over every power and authority.”

It’s so easy for us to get wrapped up in the concept that there is someone else out there that is going to make us “whole”.  There is someone else out there that is going to “complete me”.  Well  . . . . there is, his name is Jesus. 

We need to make sure that we are secure and whole in him and everything will flow from there.

The Marriage Live Series that we are doing teaches us that Marriage is not a power struggle but a power union.

How do you become a power union?  You have to be whole in Christ first.

What do I need to work on?  Where am I broken?  If I’m going to enter into a power union I need to prepare myself now.


I would like to speak to the singles out there that are on the hunt.  J  The reality is that many of you out there are looking for Mr. or Mrs. Right.  And I don’t think that there is anything wrong with that as long as it doesn’t consume you.  Be secure and whole in Christ first and then start looking.  And there is a good chance that you might find that person your looking for on your journey to security and wholeness in Christ.

Pastor Dave and Pastor Kim Chiolero, our Youth Pastors, teach our youth that they should make a list of everything they are looking for in a spouse.  I have recently made my list and I think it is a good idea.  However, it really got me thinking about whose list am I on?  “Who do I complete”.  j/k

That’s where being a whole person comes into play.  No one wants to marry a broken person.  We as singles have high expectations for our future spouse.  Do you meet your future spouses expectations?

I have been working on me that past few years to become a “Whole” person.  I don’t believe we ever stop working on “us” but I do feel like we can come to a point of having a “solid foundation” in Christ.  i.e devotional and prayer time, the fruit of the spirit evident in our life, and simply understanding we need the Lord everyday because of our sinful nature and short-comings. 

Be the person you want to Marry

Some people make a list

Are you on someone’s list    

 Would you date you? 

Our Marriage Live Series is going to be excellent over the next 4 weeks and I’m truly excited to see the Lord work in so many of the marriages here in our Church, with close to 100 people signed up for the small groups. 

As we take this journey over the next 4 weeks I want to get you to start thinking now and use the mirror to help you. 

I asked the singles to take a look at the mirror and ask themselves if they are secure and whole in Christ and I want to ask you married people the same question, “Are you secure and whole in Christ?”.


Would you be happy to be married to you?  Lets ALL thrive together and vigorously grow together.


Lets Thrive Together as singles, lets grow vigorously together as a Church as we find our security and wholeness in Christ.

Colossians 2:10

“and you have been given fullness in Christ, who is head over every power and authority.”