Week Four: Sunday, May 30       Re@l People Love Truth       Pastor Mike Brown

Discussion Starters:

1. We would lose respect for any doctor that refuses to inform his or her patient of a harmful yet curable condition. Why, then, do we hesitate to help a friend or family member that is sick and in need of our help?

2. The right motive for confronting a person in love is to help, not to hurt. If someone's motive is not pure and is somewhat intended to wound the other person, then what does that indicate about his or her walk with Christ? How could such a person change their motive?

3. Describe a time when someone took the risk and loved you enough to tell you the truth. It was not what you wanted to hear, but it certainly was what you needed to hear. How did it help you?

4. Are you willing to hear the truth in love? What can you do to prepare your heart to hear it?

Action Steps: 

1. Identify someone in your life that deserves (a) to hear the truth in love and (b) to have the dignity of responding to the truth.

2. Check your motive(s) and prepare your heart. Why do you feel confrontation is needed? Is your motive to help and show true compassion? If not, then ask God to change your heart.

3. Put yourself in the other person's shoes. Why do you think the other person acted or spoke a certain way? What does this tell you about the other person's needs or hurts?

4. Affirm the person: Make a list of the positive qualities of the person you feel God is laying on your heart.

5. Forgive the other person. God commands this, and it better prevents you from taking this loving confrontation process personally.

6. Carefully plan your presentation: Remember: WHEN, WHAT and HOW are all important. Mentally and verbally rehearse your words and ask God to give you His wisdom in this planning process.

7. Seek support from your spiritual mentors and friends.

Week Four: Sunday, May 23       Re@l People Disarm       Pastor Terry Inman

Discussion Starters:

1.   Read 1 Corinthians 13.5 NIV How would you define these four "love is not" statements? What would the opposite of these attitudes and actions look like to you?

2.   "Real love doesn't blow up or store up. Love is having a long fuse and a short list!" Which of these two anger reactions do you tend struggle with? How could you change this pattern?

3.    Being wounded and being wronged are two different things: Being wounded is accidental. Being wronged is intentional. How does this understanding help resolve conflicts?

4.   The three steps to forgiveness are: (1.) I will relinquish my right to get even. (2.) I will respond to evil with good. (3.) I will respect the process as long as necessary. How have you experienced this in your relationships?

Action Steps: 

1. Ask God to reveal to you a relationship that needs forgiveness and healing. Begin praying for courage, grace and wisdom for resolution.

2. Here are some ideas for expressing forgiveness...

"I am so sorry that what I did was hurtful to you. Please forgive me. I value our relationship and I would never intentionally wrong you in any way."

"I'm sure you did not mean any ill will toward me, but I definitely felt hurt by what happened."

3. Do you have difficulty forgiving yourself? Ask God to reveal to you any areas that you have not felt His forgiveness? Receive His love and healing.

4. What could you do to make our church or your group a more loving, accepting and forgiving atmosphere?  

 Week Two: Sunday, May 9      Re@l People Sacrifice       Pastor Mary Inman

Action Steps: 

1. Write down two people that could use your kindness this week.

________________________     _______________________ 

2. Here are some ideas for demonstrating kindness. 

·      Babysit for a single parent.
·      Bring a meal to a family in need.
·      Offer to mow a yard, do minor repair or fix a car.
·      Volunteer to tutor kids needing extra help.
·      Volunteer in our community through Compassion Network.
3. Use the "invite cards" to introduce friends or family to the series.

Discussion Starters:

1. "Love is Kind, love is Patient". How would you define these two virtues listed in 1 Corinthians 13.4 

1. Patience: What situations are you in right now that seem hard and slow.  Write down what you are waiting for from God. What is your "waiting room"?

2. Kindness: Share a personal story of a time when your were shown kindness. How did that impact you?

3. Reflect on your life. Are you a person of patience or impatience? Are you a person of kindness or indifference?

Week One: Sunday, May 2     Re@l People Love     Pastor Terry Inman

Action Steps: 

 1. Prayerfully identify a person or persons you will actively demonstrated God's love to this week. Pray everyday, "Lord show me who to love and how to love today."

 2. Study the subject of biblical love as presented in 1 Corinthians 13. Share your thoughts with friends on Twitter, Facebook, email, phone, one-on-one conversations and small groups. (see Discussion Starters below)

 3. Keep a personal journal. Keep a log of your experiences with relationships as I Corinthians 13 guides you.

 4. Use the "invite cards" to introduce friends or family to the series.

Discussion Starters:

1. What seemed to impact you the most about Sunday's overview of 1 Corinthians 13, "Real People Love"?

2. As you reflect on the eight things "love is not", pick something that you know you need to work on and why.

3. If you were writing this chapter on love to our church, what are some things you might say?

4. Where do you find the courage and motivation to love like Christ?